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List of Sugaring Resources

Before I started sugaring I did research upon research. I had to prepare myself and I find it very dangerous and plain stupid if a SB doesn’t do her research and jumps right into it. You need to decide if it is truly right for you. 

So in order to understanding sugaring you must understand the men and WHY there is a demand for SBs. To understand that you need to understand the appeal of sex and all aspects of the sex industry. 

So I researched stripping, porn, paid companions, trophy wives, sugar dating, high end prostitution, low end prostitution, male sex-workers, the rich and elite businessmen, stock markets, and modeling.

Here is a list of the top resources I used:

Netflix

These were free streaming videos online and if you don’t have a Netflix account you can sign up for a month free and that should give you enough research time.

  • Whores Glory (higher to low end prostitution)

  • After Porn Ends

  • The Price of Pleasure

  • {strange}sex (great to understand those with fetish)

  • Nated Ambition: An R-Rated Look

  • Sleeping Beauty

  • Student Services (feel like a lot of college girls can relate)

  • The Great Happiness Space (a good look at understanding what drives Sugar Mommas/male workers)

  • The Science of Sex Appeal (top favorite)

  • Girl Model

  • Park Avenue: Money, Power and the American Dream

  • The One Percent (understanding the drive of SDs)

YouTube

I won’t post all the links here because there are so many but type in “sugar dating” and it will take you right to SBs on Tyra, Dr. Phil, site reviews, 20/20, Dateline, etc.

Blogs

I will be doing a Recommended Blogs post soon but here is links to a few more besides tumblr blogs:

Books

  • The Price: My Rise and Fall as New York’s #1 Escort

  • Secret Diary of a Call Girl

  • Confessions of a Working Girl

  • Confessions of a Stripper

  • The Girlfriend Experience

  • The Sugar Baby Lifestyle: the Intelligent Woman’s Guide to Sugar Daddy Dating

Apps

  • The Carrot Dating app is now out (like WYP-What’s Your Price)
  • There are also apps to track your location and you can sign into check points so you can be safe if meeting a POT. Always tell a friend where you are at!

Hope that helps some! Happy Researching! 

I will also be posting resources for more serious matters SBs go through like trauma and sexual assault issues in a few days.

Traveling with your Sugar Daddy

Traveling with your SD is an amazing opportunity and experience that every baby should strive for. Even though you might’ve traveled before on your own or with family, it’s nothing like it is when you travel with your sugar daddy!

Personally, I love eating breakfast at small littles cafés and not having to go back to the hotel to dress up for dinner but instead go straight from the streets to some backstreet restaurant. Traveling with my family is something I cherish highly and there are many memories I will remember forever from the trips I’ve taken with my friends. But the first time me and Curious traveled together, a whole new world opened up in front of me. Being greeted by my last name in the lobby(or sometimes Mrs. Curious…) and by hotel staff at all times still makes me feel like I’m famous and when I was served Diane von Furstenberg Evian water at the restaurant we spent Valentine’s Day in Rome I was simply in heaven. (I asked for a bottle and it’s still in my room to this day. The weirdest souvenir but I love it!)

Let me tell you this though: you have to keep your game face on while you’re on your trip. From taxi to check in to boarding to flight to landing to hotel to dinner to shopping to taxi to flight to landing to taxi home. You have to look immaculate at all times and stay clear from fighting. There is no space for being less than perfect. It’s going to be tiring and you will be exhausted. This is why I’ve decided to put together this guide to preparing for you trip but also how one should act whilst abroad/away. 

1. Communication! 
    If you and your SD aren’t on the same page before leaving, you’re not going to have a good time. Pointers on what to bring up before you leave:

  • What are you expecting from this trip? Physical intimacy etc. 
  • Where are we staying? Will I get my own room?
  • What is my flight information? Confirmation numbers, what class are we flying? 
  • Will I spend any of my own money? (Hint: if he answers that you might have to, this is your time to get the fuck out.)

2. Beauty regimen leading up to the trip!
    We all know that being gorgeous is a huge part of sugaring and that there’s no denying that beauty will get you way farther than letting yourself go and giving up on your looks. No matter what your niche is(femme fatale, girl next door, BBW, suicide girl etc.), it needs upkeep. These are some pointers that you should consider before leaving and while on location:

  • Diet. A month/two weeks before the trip you need to really start thinking about what you put in your body and exercising. A week/few days before you leave a detox could be in order. Juice fast, master cleanse, whatever you prefer. It’ll debloat you, give you an energy boost and make you feel more confident about your appearance in general. You SD loves the way you look regardless(otherwise he wouldn’t be with you), but you always need to exceed his expectations!
  • Skin. You’re going to spend time in the same bed for an extended amount of time and this means a few things: He will see you without makeup. He will feel your skin a lot more than usual. You will need to keep yourself and your skin silky smooth and free of blemishes.
    If you’re insecure about your skin, there are steps you can take to help you get through this painful phase(yes it is annoying for all of us, no matter how much we love pampering ourselves). Have a facial a week before. Try a night foundation. (I personally love this one and use it every night. All of the bareMinerals skin care products are amazing. I’ve tried quite a few and it’s on of my favorite brands. ) Follow a strict skincare routine constantly, not only on this occasion. Drink lots and lots and lots of water, green tea and eat healthy foods. Exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate and moisturize until you have no idea you could be this soft.
  • HAIR REMOVAL. This should always be a priority, but at this point it should be an even bigger issue. Even if you’re like me and aren’t intimate with your SD, he will still notice if you’re hairy. He will feel your legs if you’re in the same bed. He will see if your legs have little discolored spots on them. You can wax, shave or use whatever method you’re most comfortable with, but make sure it will last you a long time since you don’t want to worry about it. Armpit waxing is highly recommended. Do whatever you do in your everyday life but do it three times as though. 

3. Research the area!
    Oh my how important this is for several reasons. These include:

  • If you get in a fight, you’ll want to know where to go. 
  • If you’re like me and have mental health problems, make sure you know where the psychiatric ER is. Also know where hospitals can be found. Write all of this down. 
  • Know where the stores you want to go to are located. This will save so much time that you could spend shopping. Keep the addresses in your phone.


4. Wish lists!

    I cannot stress this enough! Make a list of the thing you want to buy when you arrive cannot be more important. If you keep in mind what you’re looking for, what needs to be added to your wardrobe, you won’t end up disappointed with yourself once you get home. I look for purses, shoes, high quality clothes that will last you for years. Of course you’ll want to get things that are in style at the moment, but make sure you get what you came there for.
    A great way to make sure you remember these things is to make online wish lists at stores you want to visit. Barney’s, Harrods, Sephora, Neiman Marcus, Bergdorf Goodman. Keep a tiny notebook in your purse(I love Smythson) with a list of things you really want and need at all times. 


5. Time apart!
 
    You love spending time with your SD. You adore what he adds to your life. You always have a good time when you’re around him. He is going to start bothering you after a while. Just like any relationship, friction will occur between the two of you at one point or another. For a week’s trip, this is bound to happen. Before things get rough, consider these things:

  • Spend time alone every day. Do your hair alone, read a book/the news, do your makeup in peace(actually you should be doing this anyway, the way you put on your face should be a mystery). 
  • Get a blow out. 
  • Have him drop you off a store for an hour/45 minutes. Bonus: you get to buy things.
  • Spa. Enough said. 

6. Safety!
    Oh lord this is important. Just like you stay safe when meeting a POT, you need to stay safe when traveling with your SD/to meet a POT. Even though you think you know him inside out and exactly what he wants from you, you absolutely without a single doubt need to make sure you’ll be safe. 

  • Make sure someone knows where you are. This can be anyone, but preferably someone who really cares for you. Best friend, boyfriend, tumblr SBs. 
  • Keep a list of numbers/places you can go if everything goes to hell. I make a list on actual paper but also carry around some numbers on my phone. 
  • Your emergency contact should be updated every day at the same time. This will keep them from worrying, but let them know if things are starting to feel weird. 
  • Know how much a flight will cost you to get back home and bring at least that much money. It’s also a good idea to bring money enough to get you a hotel room, but that can be overkill. Ask the girls in the tag/that you talk to if they live near where you’re going and if they’d be willing to let you spend the night if needed. 


The most important things should be covered now, but if you find yourself wishing for more information, feel free to send me a message and I’ll try to answer you. I’m also going to end this with a question so you can ask me right here. 

Hopefully you could benefit in some way from this. Traveling with your SD can be absolutely amazing, just make sure you are safe and taken care of and you’ll have a great time! 

Have a safe trip and enjoy yourself! ?